Love as a Lifestyle
"We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men and women; and among those fibers,
as sympathetic threads,
our actions run as causes,
and they come back
to us as effects."
Once in a while, I would meet a very luminous elderly client in the art studio that I used to work in who glowed from the inside with love. When I encountered such love, I was immediately curious.
I met such a man on his 87th birthday. His eyes were clear and bright, and he sat solidly in his soul with a peaceful countenance. When he turned 40 he decided, after many years of struggling with resentment, to dedicate his life to love. When I asked him to describe his life philosophy, he said:
"We are only human and everyone has a certain weakness in their character. Some people do not get the basic thought pattern of love and are not ready to live the truth of love in their lives.
There is a thought pattern to loving and caring about others that put us into the right frame of mind. We are meant to play our part in making love stronger in the world. We build inward strength by loving others."
"It should be said that many have a hard time being loving all of the time because they feel so hurt. You have to learn love through the hurt. At any cost, we should forgive others. This is the workings of the universe."
Aspects of Self That Block Love
The hurting parts of yourself that do not believe in love form an entire constellation of behaviours that often defy conscious understanding. Psychologists Hal and Sidra Stone explain it this way:
"It is important to learn about how sub-personalities operate within us. Without this understanding, we are in the powerless position of watching different sub-personalities drive our psychological car while we sit in the back seat or, worse yet, hide in the trunk. It becomes a matter of great importance to discover what these selves are and how they operate within us. This journey of discovery is the evolution of consciousness.
It may seem strange to think of our car being driven by different selves, each demanding its turn, yet this is exactly the situation. We have usually been so conditioned by the time we reach adulthood and generally long before, we have lost connection to our true being. We no longer know who we are or what we feel."
Ultimately the goal is to bring every part of yourself into alignment with love. It takes dedication and courage to heal the hurting parts of yourself that resist love. As you learn how to love, you will need to approach the practice of love in two ways. You will have to be willing to dedicate your life to opening up to love, and you must be willing to process the pain of love lost.
Love as the Ultimate Spiritual Practice
I offer you this meditation on LOVE from spiritual teacher Aster Barnwell:
"I am often asked what daily spiritual practice I engage in. My answer to this question is that I practice LOVE. To attune oneself to Love is to attune oneself to the energy that holds the Universe together. This is why Love is the ultimate technique; if we attune ourselves to love in this physical dimension, we become attuned to Love everywhere that Love is observed. That way we use Love as a "carrier wave" to expand our consciousness. We cease to feel separate, cease to feel insignificant, cease to feel disinherited and disenfranchised."