Tonight I will be speaking with high school teacher Deanne Barrett about teen resilience. When she asked me to share in her interview series, I felt an immediate "yes" because I have been intensively healing my own "inner teen."
This free online conference has the lovely name, "Lit From Within. We will be talking about how to support teens (and our our own inner teen) to process emotional pain in fun, safe and vibrant ways.
Join me HERE. As a gift to this series, I am going to be offering a webinar e-course (free for a limited time) on how to process emotional pain through expressive art and writing.
The Pressure to Conform
When I witnessed the peer pressure my daughter was experiencing during high school, it brought me right back to my struggles to belong in my own teen years. One of the greatest growth tasks that teens face is expressing their uniqueness amidst intense social pressure to conform.
And, expressing ourselves authentically is a growth task that extends long past our teen years. Many of us are still healing inner teen aspects of ourselves well into adulthood. I recently came upon this relevant passage on authenticity in my ACIM Course on Daily Om that I would like to share with you.
Some Thoughts on Authenticity from Emotional Healing with ACIM (Lesson 326)
"We are each created to be unique in a way that will never happen again. When we do not live our truth, our particularity will never be repeated. Our authenticity distorts through socialization , but never disappears. As much as we try to change ourselves to fit in for love and approval, it is difficult to deny the particular nature with which we were born . We are each designed to bring something original to life.
It is poignant to notice when we express something true about ourselves, an intense fear of abandonment will follow soon after. Most of us abandon our uniqueness in childhood, and the individuality that remains often gets crushed down during the peer pressure of our teen years. And, we might not realize how much socialization has the power to repress our truthful expression long after we have grown up.
If we were to look at our life honestly, we would see that we have been rewarded for being inauthentic for most of our lives. One of our greatest fears is that if we truly express who we were created to be, we will be alone. Because we are "socialized" early, we can grow into teens and adults who do or say anything to feel accepted. As we move towards expressing our authenticity, we often fear social rejection. Yet, Creation always finds ways to pinpoint, celebrate and encourage our unique truth."
Heal Your Inner Child and Inner Teen
"All of the fractured parts of our mind have their own logic and thought systems. They want different things, and they are expressions of different personalities.
They have different goals because they think different things will make us happy. Some of these parts are emotionally arrested or stunted from the trauma that caused the fracture. There is not one inner child, there are many, and they are all emotionally arrested." ~ Chuck Spezzano