Intuitive Giving - Feeling Good vs. Thinking "Should"
Daily, I receive many requests for my time and energy. This is why the practice of intuitive giving has become such a profound spiritual practice for me. I listen within each day, to sense where I should give my time and energy, and where I should not. A key question to ask in the intuitive giving process is, "Does it feel good to give to this person, project or event?"
Thinking we "should" give is an outer pressure based on the expectations of others. Yet, it is possible, and even easy to "over-give" in ways that hinders another's growth. It is important to note that we are not meant to mitigate another's life lessons through our giving. Sometimes saying "no" is the greatest gift for another's spiritual evolution. Sometimes saying "no" is an act of love.
Intuitively listening to where we are called to give is a beautiful and illogical dance. Intuitive giving questions all of the human requirements that dictate how we "should" give, and invites a new process of spiritually-informed giving that edifies, illuminates, and participates in the healing precision of the larger Whole.
There is a web of larger healing that we all can partake. Participating in the mysterious universal web of giving amplifies inner gratitude, which for me is akin to joy. Inner gratitude is the profound joy we feel when we play our intuitive part in the Universal "healing web" without needing a reward. To enjoy inner gratitude, we can meditate upon all the times when it has felt profoundly good to give our gifts to life.
A Personal Study of Emotional Healing
The writing of A Course in Creating Miracles was a 5 year personal writing process that brought me much spiritual edification during a time when I was struggling with many heavy emotions.
Being non-religious, I needed an alternative spiritual text to turn to when I was struggling. I had been contemplating the daily lessons in ACIM for several years, but was craving a more feminine, emotionally-focused kind of language.
Dissatisfied with dense masculine/religious language in ACIM, I found myself rewriting my daily ACIM lessons in my journal in a way that my intuitive brain could understand.After five years, this private journal process became my 365 day e-course.
While this 365 day long course does not include expressive art and writing like my other courses, I am personally devoted to slowly creating "intuitive mandala meditations" for all 365 lessons. My mandala practice is dedicated to developing emotional calm.
Below is a lesson that reflects my thoughts on intuitive giving and inner gratitude from my course called A Course in Creating Miracles.
Lesson 197: Inner Gratitude
"The only gratitude I need is my own."
The purpose of this lesson is to understand that you can feel gratitude for your own kind acts, without needing others to thank you for your kindness.
Meditation: For at least five minutes - ideally thirty minutes or more - focus on being grateful for all that you have given to others, without needing outer validation.
We may not realize how much we measure our giving by how gratefully people respond. We will often withdraw our love and affection if our gifts are not received with "external gratitude and lavish thanks."
The Course encourages us to understand that even when people do not recognize your gifts, on a deeper soul level, the person you are giving to is grateful. If they are not consciously grateful now, they may think of you with fondness in the future.
Know that as you give to another in a particular way, you offer the same kindness toward yourself. And, if you withdraw your gifts because of their lack of gratitude, you take those same gifts away from yourself.
It is helpful to remember all of the times that you withdrew your kindness because you were not getting enough notice for what you were giving, and imagine the practice of unconditionally extending your gifts without the need for outer validation.
Every hour, for one or two minutes, search you mind for events for when you were not noticed for your giving. Embrace the new truth that the only grateful feedback you need is your own.
Today, whenever you feel upset when someone is not grateful enough, repeat the idea, "The only gratitude I need is my own."
Yesterday, we learned that the attacks that we perceive from the outside world unconsciously originate within our own mind. The Course says, "It is impossible that you be hurt except by your own thoughts." Today's idea looks at the opposite of attack. Just as we feel every judgment that we send out, so do we also receive back every gift that we give.
It often does not occur to us to give without looking for a grateful response. We all have had the experience of extending love and kindness and being rejected, misunderstood or ignored. Yet, we can feel grateful for our giving because everything we give to another, we give to ourselves.
When we intuitively give without conditions, we learn that gratitude does not come from outside of us. The Course says, "It does not matter if another thinks our gifts are unworthy." We can be grateful for the opportunity to give. Our giving helps us to feel profoundly worthy of receiving good things.
And, all of our giving is received at some point. You may have had the experience of looking back on your life, realizing much later how much someone gave to you. In hindsight, we can suddenly feel awash with gratitude for the gifts we received, long after our connection with someone has ended.
Understanding how you were not emotionally developed enough to properly see and receive gifts in the past, will help you have compassion for other people who seem to reject your gifts now. It is helpful to remember that love always "lands" on a soul level, at some point in time.
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