We do not always know what is best for our growth. Because our ego is split into parts, with various factions competing to get differing emotional needs met, we cannot always perceive our own best interests. When we follow our (ego) self-will we will make many mistakes. But, this will also bring the lessons necessary to learn and grow, albeit through struggle, burnout, pain, illness, and confusion.
The process of deep emotional healing sometimes feels stressful because our bodies retain unresolved feelings long after it is necessary. When we follow our inner knowing about how to heal emotionally, we may take steps that feel unusual or even difficult, but each intuitive step is accompanied by an inner affirmation of peace and relief.
Unresolved emotions need to be worked through slowly, giving the body time to integrate and absorb what has come into the light. Breathing deeply, sitting still, or laying down with arms open to Spirit is often all that is needed for emotion to release. Staying with whatever comes up, without thinking about it, moves the emotion out of submersion, and into the light of love.
Excerpted from A Course in Creating Miracles